So you saw a guy at the club, you thought he was really cute, and judging by the looks he had given you by that point – was bound to come over, but did not?
Speaking from a guy’s point of view, i can honestly tell you that girls are not too big on understanding the male perspective on picking up strange women.
I decided to hand you lovely girls some pointers in recognizing the difference between genuine interest and just flirtatious looks that end up nowhere. Here’s my humble advice on the matter:
Body language
Chances are that if the guy rarely turns his back to you, that’s a clear indication that he may like you. Notice also that when a guy is interested he tends to lean towards you, and also looks at you a lot, many times not directly into your eyes but rather focusing on some unclear dot in the space around you (a sign he’s relatively shy and wants to maintain a more ‘cool and easy going’ persona). Slouching his shoulders when near you, means that he’s romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.
Try and focus on his eye contact.
Generally speaking, if you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away very quickly, then there is something there. When he’s around you and he says something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed, too.
His puplis may dialate if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you’re around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.
Verbal incoherence as a sign he likes you and cannot find the words to impress you
Listen to what the guy is saying. If he likes you, which translates to slight nervousness around you, he’ll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves-especially if you talk about another guy in his company. That really primal and simple, but that’s what it is – I’m giving it to you straight.
Innocent touching
He might put his hand on your arm when he laughs, and won’t move his leg if it happens to touch yours, or he may hug you for small things – all are good signs of a guy liking you, unless he’s a bit of a “playboy” who flirts with a lot of girls. and see if he uses SPECIAL TRICKS with them more with you than with anyone else.
Watch his actions around other girls and see if he treats you differently.
Some guys tend to flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives them a chance to see your reaction, and helps them know if you really do like them or not. You can tell that they are trying to make you jealous if they find little times when they’re flirting with the other girl to look at you. His eyes will flick over and look at you. Another sign is that when you leave, he stops flirting with the other girl. That will be a harder one to pick up on, but you can have a friend look for you or something like that. You have to be sneaky sometimes to find out if a guy likes you.
Watch for him showing interest in things you like and do
For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he likes as well, he may suggest bands or artists for you to listen to. Another example, if you play sports he may ask to play against you just to show off that he’s good at something you both like and then also have a reason to give you compliments as well.
Physical symptoms that may indicate enthusiasm
A nervous guy is bound to be showing some physical indications of nervousness: Nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, looking away quickly when you notice if he is watching you are all good signs of an attraction towards you and that he is nervous about making an impression on someone he wants to be with.
Compliments
If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that’s a very good sign that he likes you. Most guys won’t notice, and if they do, they won’t say anything unless they’re into you. Anything like, “You look nice today,” “I like that shirt,” or even “Did you do your hair differently today? It looks nice,” are all indicators that he could be interested in you. NOTE: If he’s a good friend of yours, these won’t necessarily be indicators of romantic interest. It could just be him being a good friend
His friends’ reactions when you’re around him
If they know he’s interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you’re around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence – do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don’t?
Girls – What you should be doing to attract a guy you like
Generally speaking-Don ‘t ignore him just to feel like you’re inducing the tension between you. Guys tend to shut down really quickly when faced with embarrassment or indifference – bare that in mind!
Hitting A guy back may give you an indication of his true intention towards you – if he backs down, he was probably just flirting for the sake of flirting, not to aim for a serious connection. That could be an efficient tool for you, as a screening process, to know which type of guys are serious about you and which are not.
That is just the tip of the iceberg, as there are many more indications for you to know and implement in order to fully understand and invite guys to hit on you, the right type of guys i mean. Make it easy for him and be friendly – guys really want a nice girl at the end of the day, not a sardonic and cruel one.
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